Saturday, July 31, 2010

Age-Proof Your Body - Makeup, Skin Care & Hair - Your Look - MSN Lifestyle

 
 Age-Proof Your Body
Take up to 10 years off with the best anti-aging products and doctor's-office treatments.
By Sally Wadyka
 
You lavish your face with sunscreen, anti-aging creams, and even the occasional peel, but your everywhere-else skin is lucky to see a little lotion. "Unfortunately, sun damage on your face and body begins to show up as wrinkles, brown spots, and dryness as early as your 30s," says David Bank, M.D., director of the Center for Dermatology, Cosmetic & Laser Surgery in Mount Kisco, NY. And you're not the only one who's noticing. A recent study of women ages 45 to 65 at the University of Göttingen in Germany concluded that body skin was an important indicator of attractiveness and youth. In fact, the researchers found that when a woman's arms and chest were on view, she was perceived as younger than when just her face was visible. To take years off your own upper body (and lower body to boot), read on. Plus, the Good Housekeeping Research Institute picks the best SPF moisturizers.


You Want: More Youthful-Looking Hands

 

1. Fast fix: For the quickest results, moisturize. "Over time, hands lose some of their fat cushioning and the skin gets less elastic," says Marsha Gordon, M.D., a consulting dermatologist for St. Ives who practices in New York City. "Applying a lotion or cream will immediately plump up skin." Look for a formula with emollient ingredients, such as shea butter, and humectants like glycerin that help draw moisture to the skin. One that fills the bill: Fruits & Passion Shea Hand Butter ($9, fruits-passion.com).

2. Treat it: Slather on a retinoid treatment nightly to help increase plumpness over time. Prescription versions such as Renova and Retin-A (the same formulations you'd use on your face, which cost $100 and up) are the gold standard for building collagen to make skin look firmer, fuller, and smoother. Or see your dermatologist for injections of Radiesse (costs start at around $750 per treatment). "This injectable filler is thick and dense, so it adds volume and hides veins and tendons. Results may last for more than a year," explains Linda K. Franks, M.D., a dermatologist in New York City. Radiesse has not been FDA-approved for use on the hands, but according to Dr. Bank, using it for this purpose is legal and well accepted by the medical community. To minimize pain, an anesthetic is often injected along with the filler. Finally, if brown spots are making you wish you could wear gloves this summer, the best treatments are the same as for your chest — creams that help fade the spots, and lasers or IPL to zap hyperpigmentation away.

3. Prevent it: Hands are sun-exposed nearly every day of the year. "That's why they're such giveaways of age," says Dr. Bank. To prevent more dark spots and roughness, apply a hand lotion with SPF several times daily. Try Boots No7 Protect & Perfect Hand Cream SPF 15 ($14, Target). Keep tubes where you're likeliest to spot them — in your purse or desk, beside the sink — and, if possible, reapply every time you wash your hands.


You Want: A Spotless Chest 
 


1. Fast fix: To cover brown spots, try mineral powder foundation. "It adheres better than liquid, and won't transfer onto clothes as easily," says Denver makeup artist Michael Moore. It's often water-resistant, too, so you won't sweat it off. Still, the best way to avoid staining your clothing is to leave about an inch between the product and the edge of the fabric. Try Physicians Formula Healthy Wear SPF 50 Powder Foundation ($15, drugstores).

2. Treat it: Help fade spots with daily sloughing. Try Olay Total Effects 7-in-1 Advanced Anti-Aging Exfoliate & Replenish Body Wash ($6, drugstores) with niacinamide, a vitamin B derivative shown to help prevent dark spots from forming. Overnight, try a tone-improving 1.5 percent retinol serum, such as Peter Thomas Roth Retinol Fusion PM ($65, Sephora). In-office, intense pulsed light treatments (IPL) cause spots to darken and peel off within a few weeks. Typically, you'll need at least two sessions, at a starting price of around $350 apiece. "But if the whole chest area has uneven pigmentation and lots of freckling, the newer Fraxel laser — which can cover a wider area — is the best tool," says Dr. Bank. On average you'll need two to three Fraxel treatments, at approximately $1,000 each. Expect skin to have some redness and flaking for about a week after each session.

3. Prevent it: Sun protection is the best way to avoid future brown spots. Apply it generously every day that your chest will be exposed.

Next: Learn how to get a more toned butt and thighs — just in time for beach season


You Want: A More Toned Butt and Thighs 



1. Fast fix: Slathering on a light-reflecting body lotion can help diminish the look of bumps and dimples in minutes. One to try: Burt's Bees Radiance Body Lotion ($9, drugstores). And to some extent — though generally a minimal one — any moisturizer will help disguise bumps simply by plumping the surface.

2. Treat it: While nothing you rub on your skin will magically melt away cellulite, some products do help in the short term. For the best firming results, look for a product that contains caffeine, such as St. Ives Cellulite Shield Advanced Body Moisturizer ($4, drugstores). "Caffeine causes vasoconstriction, which decreases the fluid content and creates a temporary tightening effect," explains Dr. Franks. More dramatic solutions, typically involving lasers (Vela-Smooth, TriActive, and others), are available at dermatologists' and plastic surgeons' offices. "These devices help to push the bulging fat back into place," explains Macrene Alexiades-Armenakas, M.D., assistant professor of dermatology at Yale University School of Medicine in New Haven, CT. Though the financial (and time) commitment varies from treatment to treatment, most require an initial series of sessions, occasional maintenance sessions thereafter, and a cumulative cost of $1,500 or more.

3. Prevent it: Cruelly, cellulite has the tendency to worsen with age. "This is often due to drier skin, more body fat, and decreased cross-linking of collagen, all of which make the dimpled texture more obvious," says Dr. Franks. But there are a few strategies that may help: Maintain a healthy body weight (yo-yo dieting can make the skin looser) and get plenty of exercise. Walking and stair climbing — or any other activity that targets the glutes — will help build lean muscle mass. Also, avoid salty foods: They cause fluid retention in the deep fat tissues, so dimpling becomes more pronounced, says Dr. Gordon.


You Want: A Leg Up on Unsightly Veins
 


1. Fast fix: Obscure unsightly veins with spray-on leg makeup or a body-bronzing mist such as Soap & Glory Glow Getter Face & Body Sun Powder Spray ($13, Target). Stand in the tub or shower, as the spray will travel, says Moore. After the first coat, pat legs lightly with a paper towel to take off any excess, then let the spray dry for a few minutes and apply a second coat if you need more coverage. To avoid clothing stains, make sure your legs are completely dry before you get dressed. And though the product is water- and transfer-resistant, you may want to see how it fares with cutoff jeans before you expose, say, your favorite white capris to it.

2. Treat it: "If you have bulging varicose veins, you should be evaluated by a vascular surgeon," says Gordon. "They may be a sign of a medical condition, not just a cosmetic issue." But spider veins — which are small, dilated blood vessels — can easily be treated by a trained physician. A technique called sclerotherapy dissolves veins with a quick injection of saline or glycerin and starts at around $200 per treatment. (Depending on the area to be treated, the price can top $1,000.) "The vessels then collapse and disappear within a month or so," explains Margaret E. Parsons, M.D., assistant clinical professor of dermatology at the University of California, Davis.
3. Prevent it: Support hose will help keep veins from expanding, but won't look so hot with your shorts. One alternative is to elevate your feet whenever you can. And exercises such as rolling up onto your toes to work your calf muscles and keep blood flowing (repeated throughout the day) will help, too. Dr. Parsons cautions against sitting with your legs crossed. "The pressure makes the body try to correct the cut-off circulation by creating new blood vessels — and those can become spider veins," she says.


You Want: Sandal-Ready Feet 

 


1. Fast fix: Painting toes with an iridescent neutral is a great way to make feet look more attractive immediately. Try CND Colour in Gold Chrome ($9, cnd.com for salons). "Golds and other shimmery nudes work with any skin tone or shoe color," says Margaret Miner, owner of ten20, a nail salon in Boulder, CO. Miner suggests using three long, even strokes for each coat — one down the middle of the nail, and one on each side.

2. Treat it: "If calluses are uncomfortable and tough to file down, see a podiatrist to have the skin buildup safely removed," says Marlene Reid, D.P.M., a podiatrist who practices in Naperville, IL. (A pedicurist isn't licensed to use a blade to trim calluses.) Once they're under control, use a pumice or foot file regularly to prevent another callus from forming. "Foot files work better on dry skin," says nail pro Jessica Vartoughian, founder of Jessica Cosmetics. Try Earth Therapeutics Ceramic Foot File ($6, Ulta). Vartoughian also suggests rubbing olive or coconut oil onto rough spots, then donning socks — and leaving the treatment on for at least an hour a day.

3. Prevent it: Regularly massage in an alpha hydroxy acid — containing cream, such as Miss Oops Pedicure In A Bottle ($18, missoops.com), to control the buildup of skin. And whenever you can, choose supportive shoes (most lace-up athletic sneakers fill the bill) over zero-support alternatives such as flip-flops. Another smart strategy: Use insoles for a comfortable fit. When feet slip around inside shoes, calluses are the frequent result.


Daily Sun Defense

 Protecting your face with SPF may be a daily ritual, but you probably don't slather sunscreen on your body every morning. Enter SPF body lotions. They claim to provide both hydration and UV protection in one bottle, without sacrificing skin comfort (though they aren't meant to replace your sunblock during prolonged exposure). To find out which ones moisturize best and are most pleasant for everyday use, the Good Housekeeping Research Institute tested six lotions with SPF 15 or higher. In the lab, volunteers' skin-hydration levels were measured before application, after 20 minutes of wear, and again after six hours. These women also used the SPF test product in place of their regular moisturizer for a week. The winner: Aveeno Daily Moisturizing Lotion SPF 15 ($9.49, drugstores), which scored well in the lab for hydration and earned the highest ranking from testers for softening skin without a greasy feel. The runner-up, Kiehl's Creme de Corps Light-Weight Body Lotion with SPF 30 Sunscreen ($27, kiehls.com), also proved to be a good hydrator in the lab test, and was a tester favorite for absorption and skin smoothing. Of the Aveeno, one volunteer reported, "It truly lasted. My skin felt like I had just moisturized it at the end of the day." —April Franzino
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.

Here are 12 Beautiful older women listed on the blog Hipstercrite 

1.) Cloris Leachman- She turned 84 in April and had one hell of a run on "So You Think You Can Dance?"


2.) Ellen Burstyn- this Oscar winning actress, famous for her roles in The Last Picture Show, The Exorcist, Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore, and Requiem for a Dream, turns 78 this year.


3.) Diane Keaton- still one of the most sought after actresses working in Hollywood, Diane Keaton turned 64 in January.


4.) Bernadette Peters- this talented singer, dancer, and actress turned 62 this year.


5.) Tina Turner- still singing and still kicking ass, Tina turns 71 in November.


6.) Lesley Ann Warren- this beautiful actress turns 64 this year.


7.) Karen Allen- recently reprised her role as Marion Ravenwood in the Indian Jones Adventures, this actress has spent most of the past decade selling her knits and teaching acting and yoga. She turns 59 this year.


8.) Mia Farrow- this model, actress, activist, ex of Woody Allen and Frank Sinatra, and mother of fifteen turned 65 in February.


9.) Ruby Dee- This stunning actress, playwright, and activist is turing 86 in October!


10.) Julie Christie- famous for her roles in Dr. Zhivago, Shampoo, and Away From Her turns 69.



11.) Beverly Johnson- One of the first popular African American models turns 58 this year.


12.) Stevie Nicks- The lead singer of Fleetwood Mac is 62 this year!

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Seven Surprising Signs He'll Never Marry You - MSN Relationships - article

Seven Surprising Signs He'll Never Marry You - By Niki Evans
The tricky thing about womanizers is that they usually have their game down pat, which means it's easy to get sucked in. Here are some of the subtle clues a guy has a case of commitment phobia. If he exhibits three or more of these, watch out.


 

1. All of His Exes Are "Crazy"
Be wary of a man who refers to his former girlfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what's the common denominator here? Him. The dude's either looney-bin glue, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place.

2. He Plans Ultra-Romantic Dates
A cozy candlelit dinner is nice and all, but if he only takes you to secluded places, it could be a tip-off that he doesn't want other women to spot him on a date. Next time he asks you out, suggest hitting up a busy restaurant or popular bar and see how he reacts.

3. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone
He'll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He'll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the heck is going on? We're going to be brutally honest: He's mostly likely busy dating other women.

4. He Guilt-Trips You
It's normal for a guy to be jonesing to sleep with you from day one. But this behavior is a red flag if he a) lays the pressure on thick, or b) tries to make you feel bad if you choose not to get physical — like by giving you a sob story about how worked up he is without the release of sex.

5. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
Has he untagged any photos of you and him? Does he post updates often, yet never mention hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? We smell a rat. A guy who's leery of commitment will make sure there are no traces of you on his page.

6. His Buddies Act Distant
Even though a player's bros may be friendly enough, they probably won't ask you many personal questions about your job, interests, etc. The ugly truth: They don't want to invest time and energy getting to know you because they figure you're not going to be around very long.

7. He Says You're Soul Mates
Okay, we adore the idea of love at first sight — but too much too soon could also indicate sketchy intentions. If a dude comes on super strong right off the bat (we're talking the first couple of weeks), telling you things like that he's starting to fall in love with you, just make sure you play it safe and trust your gut. Those powerful words might be rolling off his tongue so smoothly because he's spoken them so many times before.

SOURCES: William July, Ph.D., Author of Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor and Jenn Berman, Psy.D., Relationship Expert for Cosmo Radio

Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.


Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Give 'em the old razzle dazzle~Razzle Dazzle 'em!

I spoke to filly several days ago. His situation seemed to be deteriorating. Everything he said to me seemed to reek of desperation. They had cut off the water to his building. His doctors wanted him to have surgery ASAP on his knee and ankle. He was still deeply depressed by the way I had treated him. AND on it went. A friend I had shared this ongoing saga with found the new chapter to be ludicrous. Actually laughing out loud at the alleged suicide attempt. I thought she was being a little cold around the heart. WHEN WILL I LEARN MY FRIENDS ARE ALL SMARTER THEN ME!!!

Well, today on my way home from the plantation I decided to ring his phone and see if he would answer. He did not. A women did. Here is the conversation:

She: Hel-low
Me: Hello, May I please speak to Filly?
She: He's not available right now. Who's Calling?
Me: This is Eda. Do you know when he will be available?
She: What is this in reference too?
Me: I haven't spoken to him in a few days and I was concerned. Is this his girlfriend?
She: ....hesitation "yes"
Me: Then you can probably answer my question. Is he alright? Is everything OK?
She: laughs...Yes, he's fine. everything is ok
Me: Oh good! well tell him I called and that I'm glad everything worked out well for him
She: OK I Will
Me: Alright gurl...have a good night!
She: You Too!

Did this Ninja think he would knock me off my square with this? Fa Reel? All that nonsense and for what. AND I don't even believe she's his girl! My spidey senses told me from the beginning not to trust this situation. My girls co-signed it. Yet...I stepped over all of that and went straight ahead down that dark ally! Yikes! Sorry Chica's (sad face) Next Time I Won't Be So Head Strong!
LMAO! Love U Girls!

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Monday, July 5, 2010

...or could it be the flimflam?

Flimflam ~ A trick or deception, esp. a swindle or confidence game involving skillful persuasion or clever manipulation of the victim.


Got Guilt?


It's difficult enough dealing with your own shit while negotiating through life. Often we accept without question or hesitation the responsibility of caring for others, children, spouses, aged parents, etc.,. Even dear friends who may be unable to care for themselves. We do it out of love. Is there a point at which it's alright to refuse? To say "No". I may have sympathy for what you are going through but I will not except the responsibility of getting you through it? 

Fillie attempted to commit suicide. He told his family and the doctors it was my fault. That he loved me and I told him he meant nothing to me. The pain of which drove him to this desperate act. After our falling out in March I did see him on two different weekends. Once here and once at his place. Neither ended well. He is extremely controlling. I do not know him well enough.... have not known him long enough to be responsible for his decision. He wanted to see me but how could I? If he was desperate enough to take his own life might he try to take me with him on a second attempt? I am not willing to take that risk. 

I am truly pained and conflicted by all of this.  The Nurturer in me wants to care for him...try to heal him. The Realist in me is rolling her eyes thinking I must be insane for even entertaining the thought. I have only known this person for six months and this is to much to ask. My own life is so far from where I want it to be right now. How can I turn my back on myself in order to care for another? Does this make me a bad person? A failed christian? A total bitch? What is the limit? how much is too much for someone to ask of you?


Here is a fable titled:  Receiving The Gift Of Limits
~ by Rabbi Edwin Friedman
an excerpt from The Emotionally Healthy Church by Peter Scazzero
Rabbi Edwin Friedman tells the story of a man who had given much thought to what he wanted from life. After trying many things, succeeding at some and failing at others, he finally decided what he wanted. One day the opportunity came for him to experience exactly the way of living that he had dreamed about. But the opportunity would be available only for a short time. It would not wait, and it would not come again.
Eager to take advantage of this open pathway, the man started on his journey. With each step, he moved faster and faster. Each time he thought about his goal, his heart beat quicker; and with each vision of what lay ahead, he found renewed vigor.
As he hurried along, he came to a bridge that crossed through the middle of a town. The bridge spanned high above a dangerous river.
After starting across the bridge, he noticed someone coming the opposite direction. The stranger seemed to be coming toward him to greet him. A the stranger grew closer, the man could discern that they didn't know each other, but yet they looked amazingly similar. They were even dressed alike. The only difference was that the stranger had a rope wrapped many times around his waist. If stretched out, the rope would reach a length of perhaps thirty feet.
The stranger began to unwrap the rope as he walked. Just as the two men were about to meet, the stranger said, "Pardon me, would you be so kind as to hold the end of the rope for me?"
The man agreed without a thought, reached out, and took it.
"Thank you," said the stranger. He then added, "Two hands now, and remember, hold tight." At that point, the stranger jumped off the bridge.

The man on the bridge abruptly felt a strong pull from the now-extended rope. He automatically held tight and was almost dragged over the side of the bridge. "What are you trying to do?" he shouted to the stranger below.
"Just hold tight," said the stranger.
This is ridiculous, the man thought. He began trying to haul the other man in. Yet it was just beyond his strength to bring the other back to safety.
Again he yelled over the edge, "Why did you do this?"
"Remember," said the other, "if you let go, I will be lost."
"But I cannot pull you up," the man cried.
"I am your responsibility," said the other.
"I did not ask for it," the man said.
"If you let go, I am lost," repeated the stranger.
The man began to look around for help. No one was within sight.
He began to think about his predicament. Here he was eagerly pursuing a unique opportunity, and now he was being sidetracked for who knows how long.
Maybe I can tie the rope somewhere, he thought. He examined the bridge carefully, but there was no way to get rid of his new found burden.
So he again yelled over the edge, "What do you want?"
"Just your help," came the answer.
"How can I help? I cannot pull you in, and there is no place to tie the rope while I find someone else who could help you."
"Just keep hanging on," replied the dangling man. "That will be enough."
Fearing that his arms could not hold out much longer, he tied the rope around his waist.
"Why did you do this?" he asked again. "Don't you see who you have done? What possible purpose could you have in mind?"
"Just remember," said the other, "my life is in your hands."
Now the man was perplexed. He reasoned within himself, If I let go, all my life I will know that I let this other man die. If I stay, I risk losing my momentum toward my own long-sought-after salvation. Either way this will haunt me forever.
As time went by, still no one came. The man became keenly aware that it was almost too late to resume his journey. If he didn't leave immediately, he wouldn't arrive in time.
Finally, he devised a plan. "Listen," he explained to the man hanging below, "I think I know how to save you." He mapped out the idea. The stranger could climb back up by wrapping the rope around him. Loop by loop, the rope would become shorter.
But the dangling man had no interest in the idea.
"I don't think I can hang on much longer," warned the man on the bridge.
"You must try," appealed the stranger. "If you fail, I die."
Suddenly a new idea struck the man on the bridge. It was different and even alien to his normal way of thinking. "I want you to listen carefully," he said, "because I mean what I am about to say."
The dangling man indicated that he was listening.
"I will not accept the position of choice for your life, only for my own; I hereby give back the position of choice for your own life to you."
"What do you mean?" the other asked, afraid.
"I mean, simply, it's up to you. You decide which way this ends. I will become the counterweight. You do the pulling and bring yourself up. I will even tug some from here."
He unwound the rope from around his waist and braced himself to be a counterweight. He was ready to help as soon as the dangling man began to act.
"You cannot mean what you say," the other shrieked. "You would not be so selfish. I am your responsibility. What could be so important that you would let someone die? Do not do this to me."
After a long pause, the man on the bridge uttered slowly, "I accept your choice." In voicing those words, he freed his hands and continued his journey over the bridge.

Selah

Monday, June 28, 2010

On My Grind Pt. 2


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Soooo this week at work we had a fly infestation. Not just the regular warm weather flies. These were the biggest flies I have ever seen. Dead people flies. What in the unholy hell!!! They were the size of thumb nails. Usually this means something dead IS near by. My co-workers think I'm over exaggerating the situation. I don't see how that's possible. AND someone hit my my car. Most likely they had just completed a drug transaction and had difficulty making a u-turn while sparking the crack pipe. I am convince God is trying to tell me something. as in don't get comfortable here! This is a rest stop on my way up the mountain. Do not try to make it into a home!
...I'm listen God....really I am

Monday, June 21, 2010

On My Grind

So I have been on my Grind since May 3rd. I was sooooooo happy to get this job and clearly soooooo delusional. This was driven home on Thursday as I watched our Board of Directors, all African American, enjoying a sumptuous buffet of Fried Chicken and Watermelon. Really... I mean...REALLY. I breathed in and breathed out...and with great difficulty somehow maintained my composure.

  ...just dreadful

It's Been A Minute...But I'm Baaaaaaccccck!

Friday, May 14, 2010

It's either one or the other! I have found myself with not 1... not 2... but 3 jobs! All great offers from places I'd like to work. Full-time I have returned to the non-profit sector. For awhile I will also be working part-time with the Census. I still plan to continue my other pursuits as well as my writing (no comments from the cat box!!) I have so much inside of me I want to bring out. I know I can't rest and go with the flow.  Oddly as my professional life evolves my personal life continues to evolve as well. It's been almost a year since I've started dating. I thought what I wanted was a relationship. Now I'm not so sure.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

I've been neglectful...

It's been almost 3 months since I lasted posted! Where did the time go!

For starters I have had an almost 2 month relationship....ova da phone!!! LMAO There were highs... There were lows... It was pure theater! Lets call him "Fillie" don't ask. Anywho, I met him in chat....don't judge me either! He looked good and he sounds like Tone Loc all rough and sexxy......sorry, my mind started to wander.  There were some "issues" but aren't there always. He said the sweetest things to me and I think it's true women do fall in love through the ears. He felt like a well worn cotton sweater, fresh out of the dryer on a rainy day. I wanted to wrap him around me and be warmed. We talked about everything and I looked forward to his company.

He lives to far for a spur of the moment date but closest enough to meet up on a Saturday. I wanted to meet to someplace neutral (read safe). He wanted to hook-up for a weekend. We made plans and I backed out...twice. The third time proved to be the undoing. We were suppose to meet this coming weekend. He wanted me to take a few days off and meet him in Atlantic City. I declined. He then wanted to come here for the weekend. At first I agreed but then after much prompting from my "friends" I told him he would have to stay in a hotel. He declined. This is what you would call a Mexican standoff. I acquiesced for 48 hours.

Last night we had it out...le sigh. After brow-beating me for over an hour I couldn't take it anymore. My inner good girl went bad and I got the giggles. I told him him he couldn't stay with me and that he was wearing me out with his conversation! Fillie became enraged! Lions & Tigers & Bears! Oh My! It ended with him continuing to over talk me while I told him maybe this entire affair had been a bad idea...just before I hung up. Oh well, on to the next one! Deuces!

Saturday, January 2, 2010

I Shalt Not Fear

As I enter into this new year and new decade I do it afraid. Afraid of all that might be and my potential to really mess it up. There is so much I have to be thankful for. Yet there is still so much I want. My desires seem to overwhelm me at times. My fear of success threatens to pull me under water and hold me there. It's not just about doing the right thing. It's about doing the right thing for me...right now. Feeding my soul and not just my body. Reaching for my own happiness and not feeling selfish while doing it. Following my dreams and not giving a damn who may disapprove. Last year I finally felt comfortable in my own skin. Gave myself the permission to be who I am...authentically.  Sometimes I still fall into the comfort of old grooves but more often then not I am aware of it. I have to make my life happen now...and I will.

Fresh Starts....

The Koru

To the Maori tribes in New Zealand, this spiral design is called the Koru. Mimicking the frond of the fern, it represents the unfolding of new life, hope, and renewal, bringing purity to the world. The Koru is also known to symbolize peace, tranquility and spirituality. It represents humans working together in harmony. And if that isn't enough, the Koru is often associated with nurturing; reminding humans of the strength and love within the family relationship. It embodies everything a conscious living soul needs to be reminded of the good things to hold onto and strive for in life.
For me, this symbol invokes an awareness of personal growth and the potential for new beginnings.
Koru

A New Year Has Begun...

"Driving down the wrong road and knowing it, The fork years behind, how many have thought To pull up on the shoulder and leave the car Empty, strike out across the fields; and how many Are still mazed among dock and thistle, Seeking the road they should have taken?"
~ Damon Knight, The Man in the Tree, 1984