There
are things we wish never happened or wish we had done differently. It's our
life lessons and how we learn to do better in the future. One thing I have
learned is that saying become cliché’s for a reason. So many people have made
the same damn mistake that now it's like "Please refer to page 17 and cliché
#121". I am remembering my
Grandfather's wisdom right now. He use to say, "Don't stay to long at the
fair". Which as a child seemed.... RIDICULOUS! Who in their right mind
would leave a Fair early? Dude! Seriously? As I've gotten older that advice has
applied to so many area of my life. To often we stay in situations way longer
then we should for reasons that don't really hold water. It does not matter how
good the sex is...when the relationship is over you need to get out. Right now
I'm dealing with a job situation. I stayed longer they I should have hoping it
would get better but of course it never did. Two years in I’m fired and filing an
assault charge against my Manager. I should have gotten out at the one-year
mark but I stayed to long at the Fair. Drama!
I Live Across The Street From My Mistakes... Next Door To Drama... Downstairs From Forgiveness... Across The Hall From Laughter... In The Same Space With Love... Only God Could Have Gotten Me Here...
Monday, March 12, 2012
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Cause We've All Thought Just This One Time....
We all try to be responsible. However sometime despite your good sense your body goes into autopilot. He looks good. She smells like sex. The air in the room shifts. One thing leads to the next and BLAM!! Your wondering where in the hell your panties/boxers are? Should you or someone you know find yourself in that position I have lifted this information from the NYU Medical Center website. Hope you never need it BUT someone you know might! ;-p
M*SHP Project 36:00
Please dial (646) 501-5200
to see if you should start PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis)
24 Hours / 7 Days a Week
|
M*SHP Project 36:00 provides free, convenient 24 hour access to HIV medications that may prevent infection after a high risk exposure. You have 36:00 hours after the exposure to take action and start these medications (called PEP) to prevent infection.
High risk exposures include:
- Unprotected anal sex
- Unprotected vaginal sex
- Oral sex with exchange of body fluid
M*SHP Project 36:00 will provide the first four days of medications and will set up an urgent appointment at our clinic for testing and continuation of these preventive medications for the full 28 days required to prevent infection. No matter what your insurance status is we will work with you to make sure that you have access to free or affordable medications to complete the 28 days required to prevent infection. Nothing is a sure thing, but PEP puts the odds in your favor. Comprehensive HIV and STD testing and risk reduction counseling are part of our service. Act now.
THERE IS NO EMERGENCY ROOM VISIT NEEDED TO START PEP.
The clock is ticking. You have 36:00 hours to prevent HIV.
ACT NOW!
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Flaws & All....
No matter how perfect a diamond may appear it still contains flaws. We try to razzle dazzle others with our shine hoping they won’t see our fragility. We don’t realize it’s the messiness, the humanness that draws people to us and eventually draws their love. I am strong because I am weak. Yet even if we love each other despite or because of imperfections how much is too much? Can someone be to flawed… to broken to be loved? Where is the turn off between respecting and loving someone else’s humanity and accepting that no matter how much you may deny it your compassion does have a bottom?
I am not a selfish person but then again maybe I am. I needed him to meet me halfway. To acknowledge both verbally and in actions how he felt about me and if he cared. He wanted me to cross blindly into his territory, with no protection, no compass and nothing to keep me warm. From his words and actions he had known the pain of unrequited love but not love. Maybe not even compassion, let alone passion. I wanted to be that soft place for him to land. But I could not tread blindly into that good night.
Every word I uttered was scrutinized. Every action dissected. Every wise-ass comment was mined until he found the hard nugget of truth. It felt as if the empty spaces and barren places in his life were morphing into a form of abuse in my own. What is the tipping point? My desire for a relationship kept me second-guessing what my spirit kept telling me was true. He was not the one. Even now I question could I have done more and done better? Why was I not willing to dive into the deep end of that pool blindfolded? The answer? Cause my Momma didn’t raise no fool.
Eventually if we are wise we accept that while everyone should be loved it does not mean you have to be the one to love them.
"you are responsible for you own happiness. Happiness never comes from outside of you.
If you put your happiness in someone else's hands, they can always take it away.
Happiness can only come from inside you and is the result of your love" ~ Unknown
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Thankful
"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough"
~ Oprah WinfreySaturday, July 31, 2010
Age-Proof Your Body - Makeup, Skin Care & Hair - Your Look - MSN Lifestyle
Age-Proof Your Body
Take up to 10 years off with the best anti-aging products and doctor's-office treatments.
By Sally WadykaYou lavish your face with sunscreen, anti-aging creams, and even the occasional peel, but your everywhere-else skin is lucky to see a little lotion. "Unfortunately, sun damage on your face and body begins to show up as wrinkles, brown spots, and dryness as early as your 30s," says David Bank, M.D., director of the Center for Dermatology, Cosmetic & Laser Surgery in Mount Kisco, NY. And you're not the only one who's noticing. A recent study of women ages 45 to 65 at the University of Göttingen in Germany concluded that body skin was an important indicator of attractiveness and youth. In fact, the researchers found that when a woman's arms and chest were on view, she was perceived as younger than when just her face was visible. To take years off your own upper body (and lower body to boot), read on. Plus, the Good Housekeeping Research Institute picks the best SPF moisturizers.
You Want: More Youthful-Looking Hands
1. Fast fix: For the quickest results, moisturize. "Over time, hands lose some of their fat cushioning and the skin gets less elastic," says Marsha Gordon, M.D., a consulting dermatologist for St. Ives who practices in New York City. "Applying a lotion or cream will immediately plump up skin." Look for a formula with emollient ingredients, such as shea butter, and humectants like glycerin that help draw moisture to the skin. One that fills the bill: Fruits & Passion Shea Hand Butter ($9, fruits-passion.com).
2. Treat it: Slather on a retinoid treatment nightly to help increase plumpness over time. Prescription versions such as Renova and Retin-A (the same formulations you'd use on your face, which cost $100 and up) are the gold standard for building collagen to make skin look firmer, fuller, and smoother. Or see your dermatologist for injections of Radiesse (costs start at around $750 per treatment). "This injectable filler is thick and dense, so it adds volume and hides veins and tendons. Results may last for more than a year," explains Linda K. Franks, M.D., a dermatologist in New York City. Radiesse has not been FDA-approved for use on the hands, but according to Dr. Bank, using it for this purpose is legal and well accepted by the medical community. To minimize pain, an anesthetic is often injected along with the filler. Finally, if brown spots are making you wish you could wear gloves this summer, the best treatments are the same as for your chest — creams that help fade the spots, and lasers or IPL to zap hyperpigmentation away.
3. Prevent it: Hands are sun-exposed nearly every day of the year. "That's why they're such giveaways of age," says Dr. Bank. To prevent more dark spots and roughness, apply a hand lotion with SPF several times daily. Try Boots No7 Protect & Perfect Hand Cream SPF 15 ($14, Target). Keep tubes where you're likeliest to spot them — in your purse or desk, beside the sink — and, if possible, reapply every time you wash your hands.
You Want: A Spotless Chest
1. Fast fix: To cover brown spots, try mineral powder foundation. "It adheres better than liquid, and won't transfer onto clothes as easily," says Denver makeup artist Michael Moore. It's often water-resistant, too, so you won't sweat it off. Still, the best way to avoid staining your clothing is to leave about an inch between the product and the edge of the fabric. Try Physicians Formula Healthy Wear SPF 50 Powder Foundation ($15, drugstores).
2. Treat it: Help fade spots with daily sloughing. Try Olay Total Effects 7-in-1 Advanced Anti-Aging Exfoliate & Replenish Body Wash ($6, drugstores) with niacinamide, a vitamin B derivative shown to help prevent dark spots from forming. Overnight, try a tone-improving 1.5 percent retinol serum, such as Peter Thomas Roth Retinol Fusion PM ($65, Sephora). In-office, intense pulsed light treatments (IPL) cause spots to darken and peel off within a few weeks. Typically, you'll need at least two sessions, at a starting price of around $350 apiece. "But if the whole chest area has uneven pigmentation and lots of freckling, the newer Fraxel laser — which can cover a wider area — is the best tool," says Dr. Bank. On average you'll need two to three Fraxel treatments, at approximately $1,000 each. Expect skin to have some redness and flaking for about a week after each session.
3. Prevent it: Sun protection is the best way to avoid future brown spots. Apply it generously every day that your chest will be exposed.
Next: Learn how to get a more toned butt and thighs — just in time for beach season
You Want: More Youthful-Looking Hands
1. Fast fix: For the quickest results, moisturize. "Over time, hands lose some of their fat cushioning and the skin gets less elastic," says Marsha Gordon, M.D., a consulting dermatologist for St. Ives who practices in New York City. "Applying a lotion or cream will immediately plump up skin." Look for a formula with emollient ingredients, such as shea butter, and humectants like glycerin that help draw moisture to the skin. One that fills the bill: Fruits & Passion Shea Hand Butter ($9, fruits-passion.com).
2. Treat it: Slather on a retinoid treatment nightly to help increase plumpness over time. Prescription versions such as Renova and Retin-A (the same formulations you'd use on your face, which cost $100 and up) are the gold standard for building collagen to make skin look firmer, fuller, and smoother. Or see your dermatologist for injections of Radiesse (costs start at around $750 per treatment). "This injectable filler is thick and dense, so it adds volume and hides veins and tendons. Results may last for more than a year," explains Linda K. Franks, M.D., a dermatologist in New York City. Radiesse has not been FDA-approved for use on the hands, but according to Dr. Bank, using it for this purpose is legal and well accepted by the medical community. To minimize pain, an anesthetic is often injected along with the filler. Finally, if brown spots are making you wish you could wear gloves this summer, the best treatments are the same as for your chest — creams that help fade the spots, and lasers or IPL to zap hyperpigmentation away.
3. Prevent it: Hands are sun-exposed nearly every day of the year. "That's why they're such giveaways of age," says Dr. Bank. To prevent more dark spots and roughness, apply a hand lotion with SPF several times daily. Try Boots No7 Protect & Perfect Hand Cream SPF 15 ($14, Target). Keep tubes where you're likeliest to spot them — in your purse or desk, beside the sink — and, if possible, reapply every time you wash your hands.
You Want: A Spotless Chest
1. Fast fix: To cover brown spots, try mineral powder foundation. "It adheres better than liquid, and won't transfer onto clothes as easily," says Denver makeup artist Michael Moore. It's often water-resistant, too, so you won't sweat it off. Still, the best way to avoid staining your clothing is to leave about an inch between the product and the edge of the fabric. Try Physicians Formula Healthy Wear SPF 50 Powder Foundation ($15, drugstores).
2. Treat it: Help fade spots with daily sloughing. Try Olay Total Effects 7-in-1 Advanced Anti-Aging Exfoliate & Replenish Body Wash ($6, drugstores) with niacinamide, a vitamin B derivative shown to help prevent dark spots from forming. Overnight, try a tone-improving 1.5 percent retinol serum, such as Peter Thomas Roth Retinol Fusion PM ($65, Sephora). In-office, intense pulsed light treatments (IPL) cause spots to darken and peel off within a few weeks. Typically, you'll need at least two sessions, at a starting price of around $350 apiece. "But if the whole chest area has uneven pigmentation and lots of freckling, the newer Fraxel laser — which can cover a wider area — is the best tool," says Dr. Bank. On average you'll need two to three Fraxel treatments, at approximately $1,000 each. Expect skin to have some redness and flaking for about a week after each session.
3. Prevent it: Sun protection is the best way to avoid future brown spots. Apply it generously every day that your chest will be exposed.
Next: Learn how to get a more toned butt and thighs — just in time for beach season
You Want: A More Toned Butt and Thighs
1. Fast fix: Slathering on a light-reflecting body lotion can help diminish the look of bumps and dimples in minutes. One to try: Burt's Bees Radiance Body Lotion ($9, drugstores). And to some extent — though generally a minimal one — any moisturizer will help disguise bumps simply by plumping the surface.
2. Treat it: While nothing you rub on your skin will magically melt away cellulite, some products do help in the short term. For the best firming results, look for a product that contains caffeine, such as St. Ives Cellulite Shield Advanced Body Moisturizer ($4, drugstores). "Caffeine causes vasoconstriction, which decreases the fluid content and creates a temporary tightening effect," explains Dr. Franks. More dramatic solutions, typically involving lasers (Vela-Smooth, TriActive, and others), are available at dermatologists' and plastic surgeons' offices. "These devices help to push the bulging fat back into place," explains Macrene Alexiades-Armenakas, M.D., assistant professor of dermatology at Yale University School of Medicine in New Haven, CT. Though the financial (and time) commitment varies from treatment to treatment, most require an initial series of sessions, occasional maintenance sessions thereafter, and a cumulative cost of $1,500 or more.
3. Prevent it: Cruelly, cellulite has the tendency to worsen with age. "This is often due to drier skin, more body fat, and decreased cross-linking of collagen, all of which make the dimpled texture more obvious," says Dr. Franks. But there are a few strategies that may help: Maintain a healthy body weight (yo-yo dieting can make the skin looser) and get plenty of exercise. Walking and stair climbing — or any other activity that targets the glutes — will help build lean muscle mass. Also, avoid salty foods: They cause fluid retention in the deep fat tissues, so dimpling becomes more pronounced, says Dr. Gordon.
You Want: A Leg Up on Unsightly Veins
1. Fast fix: Obscure unsightly veins with spray-on leg makeup or a body-bronzing mist such as Soap & Glory Glow Getter Face & Body Sun Powder Spray ($13, Target). Stand in the tub or shower, as the spray will travel, says Moore. After the first coat, pat legs lightly with a paper towel to take off any excess, then let the spray dry for a few minutes and apply a second coat if you need more coverage. To avoid clothing stains, make sure your legs are completely dry before you get dressed. And though the product is water- and transfer-resistant, you may want to see how it fares with cutoff jeans before you expose, say, your favorite white capris to it.
2. Treat it: "If you have bulging varicose veins, you should be evaluated by a vascular surgeon," says Gordon. "They may be a sign of a medical condition, not just a cosmetic issue." But spider veins — which are small, dilated blood vessels — can easily be treated by a trained physician. A technique called sclerotherapy dissolves veins with a quick injection of saline or glycerin and starts at around $200 per treatment. (Depending on the area to be treated, the price can top $1,000.) "The vessels then collapse and disappear within a month or so," explains Margaret E. Parsons, M.D., assistant clinical professor of dermatology at the University of California, Davis.
1. Fast fix: Slathering on a light-reflecting body lotion can help diminish the look of bumps and dimples in minutes. One to try: Burt's Bees Radiance Body Lotion ($9, drugstores). And to some extent — though generally a minimal one — any moisturizer will help disguise bumps simply by plumping the surface.
2. Treat it: While nothing you rub on your skin will magically melt away cellulite, some products do help in the short term. For the best firming results, look for a product that contains caffeine, such as St. Ives Cellulite Shield Advanced Body Moisturizer ($4, drugstores). "Caffeine causes vasoconstriction, which decreases the fluid content and creates a temporary tightening effect," explains Dr. Franks. More dramatic solutions, typically involving lasers (Vela-Smooth, TriActive, and others), are available at dermatologists' and plastic surgeons' offices. "These devices help to push the bulging fat back into place," explains Macrene Alexiades-Armenakas, M.D., assistant professor of dermatology at Yale University School of Medicine in New Haven, CT. Though the financial (and time) commitment varies from treatment to treatment, most require an initial series of sessions, occasional maintenance sessions thereafter, and a cumulative cost of $1,500 or more.
3. Prevent it: Cruelly, cellulite has the tendency to worsen with age. "This is often due to drier skin, more body fat, and decreased cross-linking of collagen, all of which make the dimpled texture more obvious," says Dr. Franks. But there are a few strategies that may help: Maintain a healthy body weight (yo-yo dieting can make the skin looser) and get plenty of exercise. Walking and stair climbing — or any other activity that targets the glutes — will help build lean muscle mass. Also, avoid salty foods: They cause fluid retention in the deep fat tissues, so dimpling becomes more pronounced, says Dr. Gordon.
You Want: A Leg Up on Unsightly Veins
1. Fast fix: Obscure unsightly veins with spray-on leg makeup or a body-bronzing mist such as Soap & Glory Glow Getter Face & Body Sun Powder Spray ($13, Target). Stand in the tub or shower, as the spray will travel, says Moore. After the first coat, pat legs lightly with a paper towel to take off any excess, then let the spray dry for a few minutes and apply a second coat if you need more coverage. To avoid clothing stains, make sure your legs are completely dry before you get dressed. And though the product is water- and transfer-resistant, you may want to see how it fares with cutoff jeans before you expose, say, your favorite white capris to it.
2. Treat it: "If you have bulging varicose veins, you should be evaluated by a vascular surgeon," says Gordon. "They may be a sign of a medical condition, not just a cosmetic issue." But spider veins — which are small, dilated blood vessels — can easily be treated by a trained physician. A technique called sclerotherapy dissolves veins with a quick injection of saline or glycerin and starts at around $200 per treatment. (Depending on the area to be treated, the price can top $1,000.) "The vessels then collapse and disappear within a month or so," explains Margaret E. Parsons, M.D., assistant clinical professor of dermatology at the University of California, Davis.
3. Prevent it: Support hose will help keep veins from expanding, but won't look so hot with your shorts. One alternative is to elevate your feet whenever you can. And exercises such as rolling up onto your toes to work your calf muscles and keep blood flowing (repeated throughout the day) will help, too. Dr. Parsons cautions against sitting with your legs crossed. "The pressure makes the body try to correct the cut-off circulation by creating new blood vessels — and those can become spider veins," she says.
You Want: Sandal-Ready Feet
1. Fast fix: Painting toes with an iridescent neutral is a great way to make feet look more attractive immediately. Try CND Colour in Gold Chrome ($9, cnd.com for salons). "Golds and other shimmery nudes work with any skin tone or shoe color," says Margaret Miner, owner of ten20, a nail salon in Boulder, CO. Miner suggests using three long, even strokes for each coat — one down the middle of the nail, and one on each side.
2. Treat it: "If calluses are uncomfortable and tough to file down, see a podiatrist to have the skin buildup safely removed," says Marlene Reid, D.P.M., a podiatrist who practices in Naperville, IL. (A pedicurist isn't licensed to use a blade to trim calluses.) Once they're under control, use a pumice or foot file regularly to prevent another callus from forming. "Foot files work better on dry skin," says nail pro Jessica Vartoughian, founder of Jessica Cosmetics. Try Earth Therapeutics Ceramic Foot File ($6, Ulta). Vartoughian also suggests rubbing olive or coconut oil onto rough spots, then donning socks — and leaving the treatment on for at least an hour a day.
3. Prevent it: Regularly massage in an alpha hydroxy acid — containing cream, such as Miss Oops Pedicure In A Bottle ($18, missoops.com), to control the buildup of skin. And whenever you can, choose supportive shoes (most lace-up athletic sneakers fill the bill) over zero-support alternatives such as flip-flops. Another smart strategy: Use insoles for a comfortable fit. When feet slip around inside shoes, calluses are the frequent result.
Daily Sun Defense
Protecting your face with SPF may be a daily ritual, but you probably don't slather sunscreen on your body every morning. Enter SPF body lotions. They claim to provide both hydration and UV protection in one bottle, without sacrificing skin comfort (though they aren't meant to replace your sunblock during prolonged exposure). To find out which ones moisturize best and are most pleasant for everyday use, the Good Housekeeping Research Institute tested six lotions with SPF 15 or higher. In the lab, volunteers' skin-hydration levels were measured before application, after 20 minutes of wear, and again after six hours. These women also used the SPF test product in place of their regular moisturizer for a week. The winner: Aveeno Daily Moisturizing Lotion SPF 15 ($9.49, drugstores), which scored well in the lab for hydration and earned the highest ranking from testers for softening skin without a greasy feel. The runner-up, Kiehl's Creme de Corps Light-Weight Body Lotion with SPF 30 Sunscreen ($27, kiehls.com), also proved to be a good hydrator in the lab test, and was a tester favorite for absorption and skin smoothing. Of the Aveeno, one volunteer reported, "It truly lasted. My skin felt like I had just moisturized it at the end of the day." —April Franzino
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
Here are 12 Beautiful older women listed on the blog Hipstercrite
1.) Cloris Leachman- She turned 84 in April and had one hell of a run on "So You Think You Can Dance?"

2.) Ellen Burstyn- this Oscar winning actress, famous for her roles in The Last Picture Show, The Exorcist, Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore, and Requiem for a Dream, turns 78 this year.

3.) Diane Keaton- still one of the most sought after actresses working in Hollywood, Diane Keaton turned 64 in January.

4.) Bernadette Peters- this talented singer, dancer, and actress turned 62 this year.

5.) Tina Turner- still singing and still kicking ass, Tina turns 71 in November.

6.) Lesley Ann Warren- this beautiful actress turns 64 this year.

7.) Karen Allen- recently reprised her role as Marion Ravenwood in the Indian Jones Adventures, this actress has spent most of the past decade selling her knits and teaching acting and yoga. She turns 59 this year.

8.) Mia Farrow- this model, actress, activist, ex of Woody Allen and Frank Sinatra, and mother of fifteen turned 65 in February.

9.) Ruby Dee- This stunning actress, playwright, and activist is turing 86 in October!

10.) Julie Christie- famous for her roles in Dr. Zhivago, Shampoo, and Away From Her turns 69.

11.) Beverly Johnson- One of the first popular African American models turns 58 this year.

12.) Stevie Nicks- The lead singer of Fleetwood Mac is 62 this year!

Friday, July 30, 2010
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Seven Surprising Signs He'll Never Marry You - MSN Relationships - article
Seven Surprising Signs He'll Never Marry You - By Niki Evans
The tricky thing about womanizers is that they usually have their game down pat, which means it's easy to get sucked in. Here are some of the subtle clues a guy has a case of commitment phobia. If he exhibits three or more of these, watch out.
Be wary of a man who refers to his former girlfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what's the common denominator here? Him. The dude's either looney-bin glue, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place.
2. He Plans Ultra-Romantic Dates
A cozy candlelit dinner is nice and all, but if he only takes you to secluded places, it could be a tip-off that he doesn't want other women to spot him on a date. Next time he asks you out, suggest hitting up a busy restaurant or popular bar and see how he reacts.
3. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone
He'll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He'll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the heck is going on? We're going to be brutally honest: He's mostly likely busy dating other women.
4. He Guilt-Trips You
It's normal for a guy to be jonesing to sleep with you from day one. But this behavior is a red flag if he a) lays the pressure on thick, or b) tries to make you feel bad if you choose not to get physical — like by giving you a sob story about how worked up he is without the release of sex.
5. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
Has he untagged any photos of you and him? Does he post updates often, yet never mention hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? We smell a rat. A guy who's leery of commitment will make sure there are no traces of you on his page.
6. His Buddies Act Distant
Even though a player's bros may be friendly enough, they probably won't ask you many personal questions about your job, interests, etc. The ugly truth: They don't want to invest time and energy getting to know you because they figure you're not going to be around very long.
7. He Says You're Soul Mates
Okay, we adore the idea of love at first sight — but too much too soon could also indicate sketchy intentions. If a dude comes on super strong right off the bat (we're talking the first couple of weeks), telling you things like that he's starting to fall in love with you, just make sure you play it safe and trust your gut. Those powerful words might be rolling off his tongue so smoothly because he's spoken them so many times before.
SOURCES: William July, Ph.D., Author of Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor and Jenn Berman, Psy.D., Relationship Expert for Cosmo Radio
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
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